Tuesday, November 28, 2006

The Mom Gap

It has been a week since I last posted. I realize I miss it! I've wanted to write. But there just wasn't time. Why? Cause my mom came to visit. She arrived last Tuesday and heads home tomorrow. Nine days.

So what is a visit from mom like? I wanna say...take the bizarre behavior of Mork, take away every ounce of humor, and add 50 years of being absolutely certain that your view is the ONLY view of things in the world. And that might be selling the visit as better than it is.

Nine days of listening to rambles about people and things we don't know. We don't respond. But she doesn't need a response. In fact, any response just slows the flow of the monologue.

Nine days of answering the same "yes/no" questions. Any attempt to provide more information is met with a bored 'uh huh' or is just interrupted by the next question or monologue.

Nine days, sadly, of tolerating her deeply seated racist views of the world. We cringe. We redirect the monologue. My wife even confronted her directly on some of her comments...even relying on the old standbys of 'do unto others' and 'kindness is a virtue', along with 'the inherent worth and dignity of all people'. Surprisingly, that was met with 'the bible never told me I had to be nice to everyone'. Hmmm.

Nine days. Just about five days too long.

4 comments:

Jill said...

Hmmm, I'm wondering if your Mom and my Mom are related. Sometimes I'm afraid mine is going to faint if she doesn't take a break from the talking and breath a little once in a while. Oh, and I do enjoy all the stories about the health problems of people I've never met.

Good luck and hang on until tomorrow. :)

Jazz said...

My mom's not too bad. Mr. Jazz's aunt who lives downstairs from us though. Not racist or anything, she just goes on and on and on and on. Sometimes you just wanna scream SHUT UP!!!

I've perfected the look interested but tune out completely system. Just add an uh-huh or simple question here and there and go off into my own little world.

Em said...

Jill, perhaps our moms are related. In that case, I'll support you when you need it, cause I have full understanding and compassion!

Jazz, DOWNSTAIRS?? And I thought GA was too close to CT!!!

radioactive girl said...

Hold on a second, what was MY mom doign visiting you? Glad you survived!