Thursday, September 09, 2010

Where to begin?

It has only been 11 days since Son2 moved to college but it feels like a lifetime! Try to imagine a group of kids - all with some special need and all with some social skills deficit - living and learning together. Sounds like a good plan. But then imagine that same group of kids - with somewhat limited abilities to set boundaries, lots of inability to inhibit impulses, and the first opportunity many of them have ever had not to be the "weird" kid in the resource room - and you start to see the big picture.

It would be fascinating as a clinical study.

It can be a bit scary and challenging as the parent!!

In just 11 days, he has made friends and then decided they weren't such great friends. And then made more friends. And he has watched - and reported in detail - all the making and changing of friends going on around him. Boyfriend/girlfriend pairs have formed...and dissolved. And formed again. Every social interaction is on hyper speed. Limitations on the abilities to inhibit and discriminate seem to open the floodgates for social happenings.

And yes, one girl who had not really talked to Son2 at all for the first few days finally spoke up. Her first words - "wanna have sex with me?" He politely declined.

Classes are going well. He seems to enjoy it for the most part. But make no is college being done at an incredibly intense level.


Jazz said...

Wanna have sex with me...

Now there's an opener!

Cocotte said...

Oh.My. What you've got to love about this particular 'different ability' is the overwhelming need to tell you the truth about these situations.

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

"Limitations on the abilities to inhibit and discriminate seem to open the floodgates for social happenings" - I love how you encapsulated this phenomenon in one sentence! Definitely scary from a parent's perspective. Thanks for posting about this - I'll be eagerly awaiting the next installment!

secret agent woman said...

I find myself imaging using htis line on someone - I have a feeling in most cases you'd get dragged right down to the floor at that instant.

Em said...

Jazz - it is a nice, direct "nice to meet ya" huh?

Cocotte - I love their truth telling. On the other hand, do I really want to know everything?!?!

Tanya - more is coming. He is on an "outing" today with 3 girls!

Secret - LOL you are right, most men would not politely decline. Most would take action without even saying "yes". If you use that line, we'll all want to know! :)